Relationship

Currently my life is bored to the max

I have nothing to update hence, I always find something meaningful to share over here :)

Here's a meaningful article about relationship

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DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle. 
In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse/partner. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit).

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. 
You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. 
But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades. 
It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. 
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, 
you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, 'Did I marry the right person?' 
And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. 
This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else.
You could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. 
Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; 
IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. 
It'll NEVERjust happen to you. You can't 'find' LASTING love. You have to 'make' it day in and day out. 
it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. 
You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. 

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships.
Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, 
certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. 
It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can 'make' love.

Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'... Not just a feeling.

Remember always this:
'God determines who walks into your life.It is up to you to decide who you let to walk away,
who you let to stay, and who you refuse to let go.'


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Well, I think most of you know all the statements mentioned above

but how many of you can really achieve that?

and how many of you will really take note of that and apply it into your relationship?

I will :) and am doing it  ♥

*daphne*